We all have a birth story. Whether we were born via c-section or vaginal delivery, we got here one way or another. Although some birth stories are not as “glamorous” and beautiful as others, they all end the same- Baby has arrived!
My first baby has a birth story. I wouldn’t call it amazing or out of the ordinary. To me, it was more traumatic than anything else and it took me a year, if not more, to accept that without medical intervention we both might not be here. Now, it’s not as dramatic as it seems, but at the time it was emotional, overwhelming, and left me with a lot of questions.
My pregnancy with my older baby was normal – besides the typical discomforts of pregnancy and the threat of bedrest at 34 weeks. She was average in size, and I’m average size, so we didn’t think that “size” would be an issue – until I stopped progressing at 7 cm after being in labor for over 2 days. I had to have a c-section, but nonetheless, my little girl had a birth story that spanned 48 hours leading up to her birth.
My next baby will be greeting us in just a few short weeks and I’m left wondering how I will feel if I do not have a VBAC (you can check out my previous post on VBAC). It seems so routine at this point to just check into the hospital, change into a gown, get a spinal, then lay on a table and have a doctor pull a baby out of me. Is it really THAT simple? There is no “labor of love” or beautiful entry into this world in a tub of water. Unfortunately, this is how 30% of the population is coming into the world these days. Does it really matter? Do people really care to have a proper “birth story”?
A C-Section did not prevent me from bonding with my baby, breastfeeding her until she was a year old, and the enjoyment of being a mom. So why does it bother me so much that a potential repeat c-section is in my future? Some people willingly sign themselves up for a c-section because spontaneous labor doesn’t fit into their schedule. Ever hear of being “too posh to push?” I too am afraid of having my lady parts damaged from the trauma of labor, but that wouldn’t stop me from attempting a vbac – plastic surgery has come a long way!
I read stories of other moms who have labored, had a midwife, pulled their baby out themselves, and had their hubby cut the cord. I’m left wondering if I would feel robbed if I didn’t at least attempt a “normal” delivery- even if it does include a typical hospital setting, a pitocin drip and an epidural (because I am NOT superwoman and pain is NOT my friend!) I never thought I would feel this way, as I am not one to feel robbed of pain and disappointment (as I endured the first time around.) I keep in perspective that in the end, I will have a baby in my arms, regardless of how it comes into this world. I will be ecstatic that my family is expanding and hopeful that there are no complications along the way.
So I would love to hear from you – what is your take on repeat or scheduled c-sections and birth stories?