This is a guest post written by Sandra I.
I’m not one to worry too much about gender identity when it comes to my kids. When my oldest was 14 months old I was about to have my second child so I bought him a doll. Yes…the doll was wearing blue, but that was primarily because I was having another boy. I wanted my son to have his own baby to take care of while I was taking care of my new baby. And when I became pregnant with my daughter I bought my younger son a baby doll in pink because I was having a girl. Also because at 2 ½ I already knew he would prefer the pink one.
My mother thinks its her influence. She’s always told the kids that pink is her favorite color and she’s worried my son is imitating her. But he’s pretty strong-willed and I doubt he’d be swayed regarding his preferences. In fact he insists that my favorite color is purple even thought I tell him its blue! When he was 2 and in his toddler class his teacher told me that he was so obsessed with this one pink purse that she would have to let him hold it when she changed his diaper. Then by the middle of the school year she had to put it away altogether because he became possessive and wasn’t sharing with his friends. Oh my! Honestly I was more concerned with his sharing skills than the fact that it was a pink purse….or well, a purse at all! I offered him one of mine to play with at home but it was rejected because it was black. Pink just isn’t my color (unfortunately for my son).
Now that he’s 3 years old and my daughter is almost 1 he’s had plenty of opportunity to pillage and take over most of her toys. She doesn’t care much. She’s more interested in the action figures lying around and (of course) my cell phone, remote for the TV, baby monitor and a plethora of other non-toy items around the house. And when I’m not looking I find my son wearing her tulle skirt from Christmas, her headbands, my perfume, my make-up, and pretty much anything else that’s meant for girls/women. Just last night my boys only had about 1/2 hour to watch TV before bedtime but they couldn’t agree on what to watch. So, instead of compromising my older son watched The Avengers cartoon in the den and the younger was tucked into my bed watching Sofia the First in my room.
As I mentioned earlier I’m not terribly concerned. When he’s not driving me crazy or fighting with his brother he’s a happy little boy. He’s very funny, charming, and super affectionate which I just love to pieces.
Does anyone else have a 3-year-old exploring things meant to interest the opposite gender?