My almost 4 year old is at an age where there are rewards and consequences for her behavior and actions. For the past few months, I found myself becoming increasingly frustrated with her behavior and her tantrums, but in the same token, I know she is a good kid. She is smart, caring, and loves those around her. Just don’t say the word “no” to her. I know that NO child likes to hear the word no, I don’t even like that word! But, she has to learn about how the world around her works. Not everything in life comes easy, and she shouldn’t go through her entire childhood thinking that she can have whatever she wants at the drop of a hat. She needs to start earning the extra things in life, such as toys and other non-essentials.
Keeping her busy is one way to avoid her tantrums. I try to find age appropriate projects online and I find that when she successfully completes projects, I see a huge boost in her self esteem and her demeanor towards other situations that would normally cause a tantrum. It seems that when she is happy, everyone in the home is happy!
When I was asked to be a cwist ambassador, I took a look around the website and felt this might be something right up our alley. Being that I hold a teaching background, I love letting my daughter “play” while she learns. cwist makes this possible by giving you ideas on projects and showing you step by step how to complete them. Each time you (or your child) finish a step, they check off an item on their list. Each step gets them closer to finishing their project and reaching a goal. The best part is, the goal is something they initially choose and YOU approve. It can be a toy or game, or something specific they choose. Once the task is completed and you approve the work they did, cwist shows you where you can purchase the “prize.” I love that this not only gives the child an educational project to complete, but it also teaches them they need to work towards a goal.
What are you thoughts about goal making with children? Do you do anything similar to this?